Start with the Beam You Can See
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And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.
Matthew 7:3-5 KJV
Another person's mistake is often easier to explain than your own. You know exactly why their tone was wrong while describing yours as understandable. That unequal standard keeps correction from being honest.
Jesus uses a striking picture to expose hypocrisy. The person attempting to remove a small object from someone else's eye has a much larger obstruction in his own. The first responsibility is to deal truthfully with what prevents clear sight.
This does not mean every moral judgment is forbidden. Scripture requires discernment and loving correction. It means we should not use another person's fault as a way to avoid facing our own sin.
Before confronting someone, examine your part carefully. Admit any unkindness, exaggeration, or pride that belongs to you. Make the needed apology without requiring the other person to apologize first. Then, if a concern still needs to be addressed, speak with humility and a desire to help. You will see more clearly when you stop treating self-defense as your first obligation. Honest repentance makes room for useful conversation where accusation alone usually creates resistance.
Keep the passage in context
Jesus condemns hypocritical judgment through the illustration of a beam and a mote. He calls for honest self-examination before helping another person with a fault.
Read further: Matthew 7 in the King James Bible.